Tips on Silencing your Inner Critic

It’s been awhile since I posted something on here.

And I want to update you guys here too of what’s going on (need to work on posting here too).

✨ Here is what’s happening in my life right now:

I’m way too active on Instagram (follow my writing journey there too. I post daily video updates and mini games on insta stories.) I have been posting what I’m up to, and posting my weekly writing updates. It has become my accountability haven.

AND I’m never active here. Ooops. I am hoping to change that in the next couple of weeks.

But ONE major thing happened, I need to tell you, and that is…

I’m putting Project Glass Kingdom on HOLD for 9 days (today is day 6th in the midst of writing this) because I was distracted by a poetry book contest I saw online. So I decided to give it a shot and go for it.

It’s been too long since I get up from the chair and do something with my poems. I do try to submit them to poetry competitions from time to time. But this time, I wanted to do more. I wanted to try to get a poetry collection published.

That would be a nice dream come true. A book published? Ahhh, dreams.

That’s wishful thinking as well because one needs to put in the work to be up on the shelves with the authors they admire.

To get there. you have to put your foot in murky water.

Like in any story, the main character goes through the muddy middle to reach their goal. In this case, you’re TRYING to put yourself out there by sending out short stories, essays and poems to literary magazines. THIS will help you build your name. To build connections. To practice trying something new once in awhile. To take up more challenges. To get out of your comfort zone. To try to do more and not sit with the bystanders.

Surely, there’s always going to be obstacles standing in your way. But does the main character (YOU) give up?


Even if the voice in your head tells you not to, as cliché as it may sound, YOU don’t give in to that nasty remark.

Think about it.

You have poured your heart and soul into a piece or project that you’re passionate about. The one piece or project that made you spend days, months maybe years to craft it. AND, you just want to keep it to yourself. Because you’re scared of the what ifs? What if the story’s not good enough? What if the piece gets rejected? What if I’m not a good writer??

Have you heard of this phrase,

I live by it.

Don’t let a nasty voice at the back of your mind tell you that it’s impossible to put it out there because you’re not ready. Because you’re not good enough. Because you won’t get published, or whatever the reason may be.

Nonetheless, IT’S OKAY to feel like that, everyone gets this way. I know I do. 

AND WHEN your inner critic nags you, do the opposite of what that voice tells you. Submit that piece! Submit that manuscript! Submit that painting! Submit that poem!

Don’t doubt yourself anymore. Do the scary thing. Don’t listen to that voice. Do listen to your fiery passion!

It’s good to keep these things in mind that…

you’re growing as a writer and

if you don’t put yourself out there, you won’t make connections, 

if you don’t build up your name, readers will not know you,

if you don’t let bygones be bygones with criticism then you won’t develop thick skin, 

and improve your craft further.


to embrace these fears that are tearing you down, 

to put yourself ahead and not let your dreams die because of doubts, 

to cross out the things that are holding you back, 

and crumble them, and throw them into the wastebasket. They aren’t worth it.

Now, come forth, and go, conquer your fears! You won’t regret it.

*By the time, this post goes up. I’ve already submitted the fantasy poetry collection, and am working on my fairy-tale mash-up WIP .

That is all for now. Alex is signing out.

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10 THINGS to do while stuck AT HOME

Feeling bored in the house?

Don’t know what to do besides stare into space and watch TV?

Fret not, here are 10 things to keep you SANE while staying at home:

1. List down all the things you enjoy doing and do each one accordingly. And then, cross them out.

  • My favourite thing to do is to make lists. I have no idea what makes me excited about creating lists but when it’s done, you get to cross it off and you feel satisfied.

2. Exercise

  • Got to keep fit to keep your muscles energized and on your feet at all times.

When this dystopian event ends and life returns to normal, you might be too busy to do workouts already since you’re back to work/school.

3. Spring clean / De-clutter

  • The horrible thing that you keep putting off. Now it’s time to spring clean your workspace/ house till it shines.

4. Listen to some music while writing/painting/creating/singing/doing yoga

  • Another type of exercising. That’s what I like to do. Turn on some upbeat music and dance aka exercise. Or put on some music and write some poems and your Work-In-Progress.

5. Educate yourself. Learn a new skill/language.

  • There are loads of classes online that are free like YouTube and Pinterest and blogs which you can learn something new.

6. Make a scrapbook OR Journal

  • Keep a journal nearby. Journal through the good and the bad of the crisis time because it’s like a historical piece. Think of it this way, one day, you might show it to your grandchildren and say, “I will never forget the time when I and your mother/dad had to live in a cooped up world. It was like a dystopian novel.”
  • Or create a list of all the things you took for granted, and once this is over, do the things in the list.

7. Play video games

  • Playing some games can take your mind off the stressful things that’s happening in the world right now. It doesn’t necessarily have to be video games, you can play board games and puzzles too.

8. Drink lots of water and rest well

  • All this worrying and anxiety can make you feel drained out. So drink plenty of water, and take care of yourself.

9. Take part in contests, quizzes, hashtag challenges

There are a lot of tag challenges on Instagram and on twitter that you can try like #30DaysofHaikuChallenge on Instagram

Or you can write a short story or a poem and submit it to online magazines.

10. Explore fictional worlds

  • Remember there’s a stack of unread books stashed away in the closet. Might want to use this time to dig in and gobble up the words (I’m telling myself too -__- )
  • Last but not least, read to escape. If you can’t travel in the real world, travel through fictional ones.

[ s m a l l  r e m i n d e r ]
The biggest downfall is to waste time just because there’s more time to waste. Do something! Take advantage of this time to do what you love. DO THE THINGS that make you happy. Feels like the universe has stopped time for you to do your own thing. Use this time wisely because time waits for no one and it’s hard to gain back the time that is lost.

OWN it this time!

So, QTOD: are you going to use this time to CREATE something or just stare into space?

Tell me your plans!

That is all for now. Alex is signing out.

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I finished something // now what?

On 24 December 2019, an incredible feeling happened.

Non-writer: Santa came to town?

Me: No. It’s not any feeling, it feels like I can do anything if I set my mind to it.

Non-writer: Did you find a genie hidden in the star of the Christmas tree?

Me: No, although that is a good idea for a story.

Non-writer: Oh I got it! Your cousins are spending a week at your place?

Me: OH YES! But that’s not it…of course, I’m happy *scratches my head* but that’s not the incredible feeling…I was talking about…

Non-writer: Then?

Me: I’m happy that I FINISHED MY 1ST DRAFT! 3 years, I have been working on it for three years. That is cause for celebration, right? 

A celebration indeed. It lasted the whole of December 2019, spending time with my cousins. It was a wonderful celebration and I got to see more of my hometown. 

I have been thinking long and hard about Project Fire’s future (whoa, when did I think like this), I have noticed that I am too in love with the world and I want to succeed in this (long) series so I decided… 

I have decided to shelf it.

Non-writer: whoa, whoa, whoa, you’re going to keep it? You just said that you’ve spent 3 years writing it, and now you’re gonna keep it? What’s the point of writing it when you know you’re going to hide it in your closet?

Me: (technically, series don’t necessarily do well especially when one is a newbie in the publishing industry. I haven’t created a name for myself. Mmmm, do readers want to take a chance on this? 0_0 I don’t want to risk it.) I want to build an audience first. I want to get my name out there.

But I have good news.


Me: I’m working on another project. It’s a fantasy romance this time!

That is it for now. Alex is signing out.

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Project Fire + NANOwrimo | Update #1

It has been a hot second (more like a month) since I have updated you on Project Fire and NaNoWriMo.

NaNoWriMo is going great and I hope it stays that way. Work has been piling up so I will probably do that in the next couple of days. Then I can focus on ONE thing: Project Fire.

I’ve decided to be a NaNo rebel this year and focused on finishing the manuscript. It’s a promise I made to myself. Thus, I cannot break it. Before NaNo, Project Fire was sitting at 40K. But now, I’m aiming another for another 50k to complete the length of the novel, and the story.

About Project Fire (so far)

🌟 it’s a series, book 1

🌟 Genre: Dark Fantasy

🌟 A crossover between middle grade and young adult

🌟 Third Person limited

🌟 it questions about what will happen if tranquillity disappears from the world.

🌟 has portal magic

🌟 forbidden friendships and magic

🌟 Trope used: play on the Chosen one

Update: I have only two more articles to write today while working on my Nano Project.

That is all for now.

Alex is signing out.

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My Preptober + NaNoWriMo plans

Preptober is in session! So it is time to prepare for next month. What is happening in November? NaNoWriMo = National Novel Writing Month is coming, and I gotta prepare for this. I don’t want to flunk it without coming up with a plan just like last year which means I need to finish my outline.
I have been outlining since January and I am almost to the end but it is hard not to feel discouraged and drained out. I have been working hard on this story and it feels like this story is the one that I would like to get it published one day.
It is brewing and I’m still writing those words I told myself to take breaks on the weekends. So I wouldn’t feel the weight of stress crushing my shoulders.
It is sucking out the joy of writing, but I like it. Weird. Outlining helps me plan the story. I like asking questions like who is going to give advice to my MC. Or why are the characters standing here, or by any chance, are they looking at something that glows in the dark? And everything they do, it must mean to the story. I need ALL the details. When I don’t know something, I’ll write down notes to remind myself that I need to change stuff that doesn’t make sense.
Preptober Goals:
  • Finish the outline for Nano Project aka Project Fire

October Goals:

  • Plan a secret project
  • Write more poetry and submit them
  • Engage more with the social crowd

Alex is signing out.

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